Couples & Marriage

Talking is a fine art between two people trying to be intimate. Misunderstandings become huge sources of pain and conflict instead of opportunities for conflict resolution and clarification. Needs and desires become difficulty to express calmly and confidently and thus two people who would rather care for each other become strangers or enemies.    Solution: Communication techniques that remedy these and many other confusions and hurts in a relationship are rather easy to teach. Even the first awkward practice session of these communication techniques results in calmer feelings, growth in mutual respect and some problems are solved.    Techniques taught included:       • Male/Female Language Decoding       • Empathic Listening       • Reflective Responding       • Sound-Bite Complaining with the Goal of Solution       • Problem-Solution Technique       • Airing the Dirty Laundry and other Stinky Endeavors, Sex, Money, In-Laws         - Learning to Tread Where Only the Brave Dare Travel

Mothers & Marriage

Dynamic Mother and Dynamic Lover Quail the urge to be supermom. You'll burn yourself out before lunch and be cranky before the time for lovers to cuddle. Instead,wrap yourself in the pleasures and intrigues that stimulate you and your family members. Here's how.    Cleaning dishes is not one of those pleasures for most mom. Folding laundry and mopping shower walls--likely bore most. Meeting everyone's detailed desires and seeming needs can also drain you--especially if you feel like an invisible servant. These chores, if seen as chores, will rob you and your family of your beautiful motherly zeal for those you love.    What can you do?    First, assume you are naturally a loving, enthusiastic and energetic woman who wishes to stay at home to improve your family's well-being. Second, recognize and hold close to your heart the truth that a truly joyful, playful and creative mother cultivates healthier children, emotionally confident and happy children as well as fathers, and sensually alive moments with her spouse.    Third, while an orderly house that runs smoothly and neatly does improve mental clarity and harmony for most members of a family, that orderly house does not have to be a result of you being grumpy or strained. Instead, create games, competitions, team efforts and fun musical and laughing energy for you and your family members while you collectively accomplish some of the chores. Your family will enjoy any task if its fun, warm and emotionally connected.    Also, don't forget that your friends might be available to co-op chores. That's right, gather your girlfriends and go from house to house doing the chores together as you sing, laugh, gossip and dance your way through folding their clothes or waxing your parquette floors. Cooking parts of each others' meals provides variety and ease too.    Then, in bed or before, remember you are a sensual woman whose skin can tingle when touched, hugged, caressed. Turn to another blog or article about remembering how to be a lover. Read some sexy-novel blurbs to stimulate your sexual appetite. Pretty yourself so you find yourself attractive and playful with your man. Bring the lotion your dry skin needs to your spouse, ask for a quicky lubrication of your back or legs and close your eyes. Feel his touch (even if mechanical or tender). Make some pleasure groans to remind yourself and him that you are WOMAN. The sound and movements your make when he touches you even slightly will increase his skins sensors and make him remember how to touch you sensitively. Soak in and receive his love--which sex is for him--to refuel for the next day.    Supermom is powerful--but not always breeders of joy. Playful, lively, energetic mothers are powerful and a joy to be around--creating joyfulness as well. So enjoy being a mother--really have fun--its best for everyone.

Divorce: Sad End of Marriage

Divorce - Neither a Joy nor Solution but Sometimes Inevitable    The decision to divorce is usually a several year journey toward the decisions or actions. Perhaps you can change your path and veer back toward the relationship you need and hope for. Perhaps you will need to move forward toward divorce and be assisted during the severe conflicts and complicated decisions that await the next year or two of transitioning. Perhaps too, your children will need the help and support that you wish them to have despite the severity of conflict and changes. We work with couples and individuals traversing this difficult path and specialize in dealing with the pragmatic and emotional concerns of separation, divorce, child custody, reuniting and recovering from divorce.